How to support a victim of domestic abuse

If you think someone you know is a victim of domestic abuse, it's important to remember that intervening directly may be dangerous for the victim and for yourself.

What you should do

• Be prepared to listen, and give the victim time and space to open up to you
• Read Refuge's guidance on how to support someone who is being abused
• Learn more about the help for victims of domestic abuse available from both local and national support services
• Encourage the victim to contact an appropriate support service, and be there to help them if they want you to be. 

What you shouldn't do

• Judge the victim's experience or choices
• Try and sort the problem out yourself directly - this may be dangerous for both the victim and for yourself
• Contact support services without the victim's knowledge - you should encourage the victim to contact an appropriate service themselves, but be prepared to support them if they want you to help.